Every year millions of people including myself make a list of goals that ultimately fall short. Resolutions are non-committal words we throw around to rationalize our hope for self-improvement.
An old stats professor once said that 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February. It speaks to the hypocrisy we’ve created when making resolutions.
I myself have been susceptible to this trap. Making grandiose goals that I have yet to fulfill. I have become complacent with phrases like “should have” and “next year” only to use them again and again. A cycle of misguided optimism.
So, what gives? Do people like myself just lack the confidence and ambition needed to get things done? I say no. Ambition, confidence, and ego are not the problem. It’s the mindset, I like many have when talking about the future.
The future is simply uncertain, leading us to a dangerous thought process by overlooking the present. Life goes a mile a minute, challenging us with elements we can and cannot control. Bottom line: our goals are just possibilities, not realities.
Thus, if I truly want to be that person I envision every year, I will stop partaking in this culture of New Year’s resolutions. My goals won’t be lists. My approach to change will just be in doses.
From now on, everything I want to accomplish must have purpose. It must be a challenge within itself, a contract that will provide me with immediate and sustainable impact.
To start this process, I first must be brutally honest with myself. I don’t know shit yet. I’m a 23-year old who believed Googling, watching Youtube, or reading some article would influence me to cook, invest, and manage stress more, 2018 proved me wrong.
Fast forward to the present, my mind has been a jumble. As I figure out my next career move while navigating through the unpleasantries of adulting, all I want is to have a modicum control of my thoughts and sleep. This is my building block.
How will I start? Find the thing that gives me enjoyment and go from there. Take blogging for example, something that has truly kept my thoughts afloat instead of lost in translation. A salvation that has kept me levelheaded.
Although sleep is not yet perfect, that is something I too can fix. Supplementing some bad habits like using social media and browsing through the web before bed with meditating and reading informative books.
It’s 2019, I’m not saying don’t dream big. That sometimes is all we got. But just picture, if we want to be effective, our successes can be multiplied if we just narrow and consolidate our issues/problems one step at a time.
We need to act out these changes into challenges more so than verbalizing them with annual lists. That will keep us busy throughout the months leading to December and beyond. Being an 80% resolutioner will cease to exist.
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